Lower your expectations and see yourself rise

When I received my Fitbit (a gift from my fitness challenge moms) I set my goal at 10,000 steps a day just like many others. But over the course of a few months, I realized I was barely getting 4,000. A few weeks ago, I lowered my goal to 5,000. I’ve hit that goal multiple times, sometimes doubling it. Last Wednesday, I joined Powerhouse Athletic Club, the sister gym to Powerhouse Downtown Tampa. After the first day, I reset my goal to 6,000. Today, I reset it to 7,000. By lowering my goal I was able to reach it. In reaching my goal, I made a new one. Then another new one. I no longer feel like a failure, never reaching that 10,000. I now feel more motivated, more inspired and more challenged. 

I have to laugh because I added a friend who is a hard core runner to my Fitbit friends list. I was embarrassed always coming in last for every challenge she invited me to. Until one day. We were talking about it and she said she adds me to help motivate me- even though there are some days she’s hoping that I’ve forgotten my Fitbit and I’m not really only at 1200 steps. That one statement from her made such a profound difference to me. It made me work harder.

I started writing this post after I began to fill up my garden tub. I’d also just synced my Fitbit and saw I was over 7400 steps. “I can top that,” I thought. So as the tub filled, I ran in place…until my husband opened the door. He’s gotten used to me walking while I’m doing dishes, jogging while watching TV and running while the tub is filling to get some last minute steps in. It’s still embarrassing to get caught sometimes, though ūüėČ I know I won’t hit 10,000 today but knowing I beat my goal by over 1,000 steps makes me feel pretty damn  good. Wanting to smoke my current goals and striving to beat new ones is an amazing feeling. 

If you are struggling with your goals, reassess them. Make smaller, more attainable ones. Then watch what happens when you start hitting them. Do you, be you.

Queen of Yeah, That Too

I am the Queen of Excuses. I am also the Queen of Procrastination and Cheat Day. If Elizabeth I can rule 3 countries, I can, too!! But I’ll save the latter 2 for another post.

My fitness moms are aware of my “no excuses” attitude. Some are so afraid of my ruling that they email me, afraid they will disappointment me when they are sick. Sheesh, I didn’t think I was that tough!! I always tell them to listen to their bodies and serious illnesses are legit excuses.

But do I follow my own advice? Shit no. I’m the queen dammit!! But that’s going to change. I am a leader and need to act like one. My biggest issue is scheduling. My family has a sort of schedule. Like my daughter, back to school today, has to be dropped off at 7:15 and picked up at 2:30 Monday-Friday. She also has dance 5 days a week but every day has different times. But, every week is the same. My 19 year old and I have set times for our classes. Aside from that, it’s usually total chaos.

Excuses.

I’m home all day. I have plenty of time to get most or all of my to do list done. But I have no structure. One of my admission from our last challenge tried to help me. I need an assistant- who will work for free.

My biggest issue is my ADD. I can’t even sit down to make a plan because it’s too overwhelming.

Excuse.

I can. I just have to clear the table, clear my mind, put away all electronics and make someone sit with me to keep me on task.

Solution.

Most

excuses are just that- excuses. We need to overcome them and provide solutions so we can tackle and complete our tasks. My #1 priority is scheduling workout time. When I get my butt in gear and get the details worked out I’ll share them. I know I’m not the only one who deals with this!!

No more excuses. It’s go time!!

I suck…..BUT I never stop fighting!

I suck.

I suck at blogging. I suck at working out. I suck at eating healthy. I suck at getting challenge prizes out on time. I suck at running fitness challeges.

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BUT, I never give up.  I never stop fighting.

Scroll through my blog titles and you’ll see so many that read, “Day 1.” “Day 1 again.” “Starting over,” “Starting over again,” “Starting over again, again….”

What you’ll never read is, “I give up…and mean it.” I’ve “given up” or “quit” but only in a moment of frustration. I’m sitting on my bed after spending an hour on Facebook drinking a protein smoothie and my first cup of water because the last thing I did on Facebook before I made myself get up was add the new weekly post challenge to our fitness challenge group encouraging them to eat healthy, exercise and drink more water. Yeah, that was a long sentence. I encourage my mom’s every day to do their best but I don’t. How can I expect them to give it their all when I don’t? Because I suck.

It took me two years to lose 25 lbs. TWO YEARS!!!!! Why? Because I’m lazy and unmotivated. Because I suck.  I see pictures labeled “January…….March” and see such a big difference in those women in just three months. I think, “Wow, if I’d gotten off my ass that could be me.” But I don’t. Because I suck.

Today I’m getting up. Today I am finishing my 64 oz of water and eating right. Today I will even finally do Day 2 of Bikini Body Mommy…..while everyone else is on Day 36. I can still catch up. ūüėČ Today, I don’t wanna suck.

Today I will send out more emails to potential sponsors. Today I will mail out the rest of the prizes with lots of apologies (I’m sooooo thankful to have such understanding fitness moms) (okay, it may be tomorrow). Today I will not suck.

Tomorrow, well, that’s for tomorrow. Tomorrow I might suck. Hell, I might wind up sucking today. It’s only 10:30 and I have a long to-do list. It’s much easier to sit here on my phone. But, today, I don’t wanna suck.

I think of all of the people who can’t get up and do.  But I can. Today, I will do my best not to suck, for them. Today, I don’t wanna suck.

Let’s not suck today!!!!!

What do you suck at? How do you make yourself get up and be not sucky?

Fitness bullying. Don’t be an asshole.

Bullying comes in all forms and it only seems to be getting worse. ¬†Deciding to get yourself fit and healthy is a personal decision, one that is made by you, for you. ¬†You’re excited. ¬†You’re especially excited when you start noticing positive changes. ¬†So, you share your happiness on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. ¬†For others who know what you’re going through or have been in your shoes, you’ll see comments like, “That’s awesome!” ¬†“Keep up the great work!” ¬†“Way to go!” ¬†I love seeing these. ¬†These are your “people.”

You don’t expect to be bullied by haters. ¬†They¬†are probably too lazy to get up off of their fat asses, or they may have self esteem issues and just want to bash others to make themselves feel better. ¬†You, know, the ones who say, “You don’t need to lose weight” or “Why do you have to post every time you workout?” or “Oh, look, Katie is at the gym again, shocking.”

I’ve seen friends APOLOGIZE for posting about a 5k success, or going to the gym, or losing 5 pounds or skipping McDonald’s and eating a healthy, homemade snack. ¬†It’s YOUR social media page! ¬†It’s YOUR life! ¬†If someone makes a nasty comment on a post or sends you a private message because they are too chicken shit to call you out in front of those who support you, delete the bitches. ¬†Block them, message back for them to unfollow you, or click the option to hide them when you post about getting fit and healthy. ¬†Whatever you do, don’t let them bring you down. ¬†And never, ever, EVER apologize for posting your fit and healthy successes no matter how big or how small they may be. ¬†Ever.

Never. Ever.

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If YOU are one of these assholes, STOP. ¬†Who are you to tell someone if they need to lose weight or not? ¬†Are you their doctor? ¬†Nope. ¬†Why do you think it’s your business to say something negative because she ran her first 5k or beat her previous time by 30 seconds? It’s not. ¬†Yes, she posted it out there for all to see. ¬†But, she posted it because she wanted to share something positive. ¬†I can almost guarantee no one posts something so others will leave nasty comments. ¬†Would you tell her to her face that you don’t give a flying flip that she just squatted 100 lbs? ¬†Would you tell her to her face that you’re tired of seeing her post her before and after pictures? ¬†Yes? ¬†Good for you. ¬†If not, don’t say it while you’re hiding behind a computer screen shoving Twinkies in your mouth. ¬† If you don’t want to see other people’s successes, unfollow, unfriend or just keep scrolling. ¬†Unless you were born under a rock, you have to have heard the saying, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothin’ at all.” -Bambi movie

This is why I run my TBMG Real Fit Mom fitness challenges in a closed group. ¬†So women have a place to feel comfortable to post whatever they want and know that they won’t be put down or ridiculed. ¬†If they want to share on my RFM Facebook business page, I encourage that. ¬†Even better, if they share on their own page. But not everyone is comfortable doing that. ¬†Those that do, often get crapped on.

If you have a weight problem and glare at the screen when you see your friend post when she reached a goal, reach out to her privately. ¬†Or join one of the hundreds of weight loss Facebook groups. ¬†Many of them have thousands of women in them so the chances of you knowing someone in there is slim. ¬†Start by making small changes in your life, starting with not being a bully when someone else is trying to get fit and healthy. ¬†Focus on you, not how others are doing. ¬†Everyone is different. ¬†We all have different goals, challenges, reasons, stories, set backs, successes and desires. ¬†Find yours. ¬†Just make sure it’s a positive one and one for you.

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I am not you. You are not him.

In the fitness world, we are like snowflakes.  No two people trying to lose weight, build muscle, eat healthy are exactly alike.  We have different bodies, different goals, different loves (and hatred) for various forms of exercise and eating.

I love taking walks. I love fun 5k runs (except I walk them). ¬†I’m learning to love lifting. ¬†I love dance fitness DVDs, some of the P90x videos and I now tolerate Brazil Butt Lift about twice a year….for a few days.

I have friends who absolutely do NOT want to weight lift. ¬†For some, they fall under the “I don’t want to look like Arnold” misconception but for many, they just don’t wanna. ¬†I have friends who have to go to the gym and they LOVE to go to the gym. ¬†Some of them can run on the treadmill for an hour. ¬†Some love the different classes. ¬†Some love the weights.

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I have friends who hate any form of cardio. ¬†Some of them love to lift weights, some just don’t exercise at all- in any form.

We are all different and I respect each of my friends, their goals, likes, dislikes and opinions. ¬†I even respect the ones who choose to lead unhealthy lifestyles. ¬†They know how I feel. ¬†If they want to jump on the bandwagon, I’ll pull them along myself.

Our fitness movement is growing every day. ¬†Let’s not allow social media to start a war within ourselves- “they” love to do that. ¬†Look what they’ve done to moms and politics. ¬†Let’s band together, learn to love each other, learn from each other, support each other no matter how we choose to get fit and healthy.

Don’t break down others because they don’t share your opinion. ¬†Share your love, share your passion, share your tips and share your advice. ¬†You might just change someone’s perception.

I don’t have time

“I don’t have time.”

This is the biggest excuse I hear. ¬†I even tell myself this same thing sometimes. ¬†Most of us are legitimately busy. ¬†I get it. ¬†But it’s an excuse.

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Even though my 22 year old is at college, I still have to take time for her. ¬†She called me last night needing to talk and instead of sitting in my room, I walked around outside. ¬†My 2nd one is also at college- I’m going with her. ¬†We take the stairs instead of the elevator every day- 3 flights. ¬†Then I walk down 3 flights outside then back up 2 for my second class. ¬†When we are studying, we’ll take 5 minute breaks to go on a quick walk or I’ll do some little strength training exercises.

My youngest is a dancer. ¬†When she was little I was right there with all of the other preschool parents with my face pressed against the glass. ¬†But now that she’s older, I’ll either go home and go on a walk or walk around the building at the studio with some of the other moms. ¬†There’s no reason for me to sit on my ass for hours watching her (although I do every once in a while). ¬†I know she’s safe. ¬†She’s not going anywhere. ¬†Might as well make good use of my time for me.

Most of us have to cook dinner, right? ¬†While you’re waiting for the pot to boil, do some push ups against the counter, walking lunges down the hall or squats in front of the stove. ¬†Jog in place. ¬†I step in place when I wash dishes, wait for the tub to fill or the shower to get hot. ¬†You know kids are never ready when we want them to be. ¬†While you’re standing at the door loaded down with their backpacks while they find a missing shoe or book, do some calf raises or squats. ¬†Got a little one at home? ¬†Strap them on and do squats and lunges. ¬†Use them for bicep curls or shoulder lifts. ¬†Stick them in a stroller or in a bike seat and go for a walk or ride. ¬†At a theme park? ¬†Use your time in line doing push ups or tricep dips against the railing. ¬†Do squats with a kid, lunges or slightly inconspicuous calf raises. ¬†Who cares if other people look at you funny. ¬†You’re not getting fit and healthy for them. ¬†You’re doing it for you. ¬†Plus, you’re never going to see them again anyway. ¬†And if they happen to take a video of you to post on their Facebook? ¬†Jokes on them. ¬†YOU are doing something positive to make your life better. ¬†Standing in line at the store? ¬†Same thing. ¬†Use your time wisely.

No time?  Too busy?

Bullshit.

I’m a full time mom of 4, part-time college student, lead admin for Tampa Bay Moms Group, I run fitness challenges, blog, drive my kids all over town, am a semi-crazy dance mom, former baseball/soccer/volleyball/track mom, full time wife of a work-at-home husband who travels, and a¬†whole bunch of other crap I’ve forgotten.

You CAN find the time.  You just have to want it bad enough.

Slow and steady!!!

The first picture is from last fall but I’m still damn proud. ¬†I hit 153.3 in the spring of 2013 after being rear ended. ¬†It took about a year to get and stay under 140 lbs and another year to hit and stay under 130. ¬†During our last 2 challenges, I maintained my weight staying in the 129-131 range. ¬†We began a new one about two weeks ago and I saw 126.6 for the first time in several years.

12235133_10208085194714424_1057883123288829991_nI told my husband, yesterday, that I no longer walk with my head down, hiding myself. ¬†I walk through parking lots and stores with my head held high. ¬†I’m learning to love myself, both inside and outside, more and more every day. ¬†I’m not perfect and I never will be. ¬†My body has been through five pregnancies and births. ¬†I’ve been broken and bruised. ¬†I get older every day. ¬†But I fight to make myself a better person and fight myself to love me.

I’m not where I want to be but I’ll get there. ¬†I decided, yesterday, to cancel my WBFF goal. ¬†I’m not ready mentally or physically. ¬†I may never be ready. ¬†If I do a fitness show, great. ¬†If I don’t, I’m not going to beat myself up about it. ¬†It takes extreme dedication and I’m just not there right now. ¬†I may never be. ¬†But I’m not a failure. ¬†I push myself a little more every day. ¬†I’ll get to where I want to be on my own time. ¬†Right this minute, I’m extremely happy with how I look today. ¬†I’ve even become comfortable enough without primping before taking pictures- no make up and I’m pretty sure that’s what my hair looked like when I woke up.

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Work hard, take things slow, learn to love yourself and never give up. ¬†You will get there eventually. ‚̧