Positivity brings happiness


“Be genuinely happy for other’s successes in life even when things aren’t going well for you. Give it time and positivity will finds its way to you. I learned this first hand today. #blessed #grateful #lucky

I posted that on my Facebook the other day after a friend reached out to me to thank him for always being supportive of him.  I truly believe that if you express positive Karma, good Karma will come to you.

I run fitness challenges for moms through Tampa Bay Moms Group.  I’ve been doing them for four years now and they are finally taking off.  They are becoming bigger and better and more moms are getting healthier and more fit.  We recently finished a fitness challenge that went really, really well.  I knew something was up when one of the moms removed me from a group chat.  I didn’t think much of it, though, and figured it may be like when you confide in your mom but sometimes you just want to chat with your friends with her out of the room.  This morning I found a package on my doorstep and was shocked at what I found when I opened it.

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Look at the amazing gifts they bought me!!!!  I was so overwhelmed with emotions that I cried.  I was sitting at a stop light after dropping my daughter off at school when I opened the package.  I just sat there crying….until the light turned green.  When I pulled into the driveway, tears were still spilling down my cheeks so I snapped a selfie. Normally, in my Vanity Smurf mode, I’d never take or share a picture of me like this (roll out of bed, throw on dress, drop kid off, come home, roll back in bed- it’s a tough life).  I’m getting over my insecurities and learning to live in the moment- even when my hair hasn’t been washed in 2 days, it’s sticking up everywhere and I have no make up on.

I plugged the Fitbit in right away, popped some batteries in my massager (perfect timing since I just started P90x again), posted a thank you that didn’t seem nearly as adequate as it should and went back to bed.  Here is my message-  My fitness moms are in trouble!!!! I can’t believe you girls did this for me. And I look like crap but I wanted you to see the tears. I can’t thank you enough for all of the work you’ve done during the challenges and how much you all have motivated me. There are no words to express how shocked I am (damn, here come the tears again) and how blessed I feel to have you all in my life. I knew y’all were up to something when Nicole kicked me out of the group chat!!! I love you all so much! heart emoticon heart emoticon heart emoticon heart emoticon heart emoticon. <I guess heart emojis don’t copy and paste LOL>  When I hit the WBFF stage, you ladies will be one of the biggest reasons why!!!!

Here are the wonderful messages these moms left for me:

  • Jenn- <she always makes me laugh> Good. Now, can we get some FitBit challenges going, please?
  • Michelle- We love you! Thank you for your encouragement and dedication to us!
  • Rita- No the Thanks goes to you. I met you that day at the 5k last fall and you have been there for me ever since that day. Helped me get into the group and supported me on this journey when I felt I had no one here to have my back. That is the least we can do for you. You have a heart of gold and we thank you for that!
  • Kelly-You are welcome! It was Nicole’s idea. Thanks for all you do.
  • I wish we could do so much more. You are an amazing friend and I will forever be grateful for the day I typed “mommy friends in Tampa” into Google and found you.
  • Nicole- Xoxo!! Thank you for all u do!!
  • Jessica- You work really hard for us ladies. I send you messages in the middle of the nigh and you always answer. You are a great coach friend and work out leader!
  • Lens- You got me tearing up! Thank you for putting up with us!

I can’t express how amazing it feels to read messages like that and know that they are for you.  Those make all of the hours I spend on the challenges completely worth it.  I’m on a new high to get things set up for the next challenge, too, wanting it to be even better than the others.  Treat others how you want to be treated and see what happens.  Love and respect happens.  Eeeeee!!!!!!  Totally excited.  😉

I already set up a challenge for them and have to get myself moving, too!!!  They might wind up wishing they’d bought me a pet rock instead!

We all go through hard times and how we handle those times defines the kind of people we are.  Things have been rough for me for a while but I choose to be happy for others, choose to be positive and choose to be happy for myself.  As my youngest daughter, Maggie says, “Do you, be you!”

Are you consciously happy for others when your life is down?  Does it make you happy to be happy for others?





Find your fire

Our journeys to become fit and healthy are often full of ups and downs- stops and starts.  The New Year is a huge one.  It’s a new year and millions of people are excited to make their New Year resolutions come true.  But as time goes on, we lose our focus.  We go to the gym less and less.  McDonald’s calls.  Facebook is more fun than working out.

Sometimes we need a pick me up.  We need to light a fire under our butts to get going again.  It could be an upcoming wedding, school reunion, break up or family get-together.  Yes, we should always be on this journey for us.  It should be to make ourselves healthier and happier.  But if you find something that will give you a burst of energy to get back on the bus, hop on and ride it until it stops.  Find your fire.

What’s your current fire?


Do You, Be You

My youngest daughter and I came up with “do you, be you” one day before she went on stage to dance.  She uses the hashtag often on her Instagram pictures.  I’m raising her to dance for herself and to not compare herself to other dancers.


I shared the phrase with my fitness moms, too.  We just started a new fitness challenge on Tampa Bay Moms Group called Relentless*.  These women fit the word to a “T”.  They are determined, motivated, passionate and goal-oriented.  They support each other and don’t care about the prizes they can win (although they do get excited when I dangle some goodies in front of them).  Each of them has a different body type and different goals.  One will have a great day and another will have a crummy one.  But so far they come back each morning rearing and ready to go!  They are there for them, to make themselves healthier.

The phrase  is mine as well.  Last night I posted on Facebook that I was thinking about becoming a Beachbody Coach.  I have three of their programs and love them even though I’ve yet to complete any of them.  With this newest challenge, I’m hoping to finally complete Brazil Butt Lift and P90x3 (P90x will be for the next challenge).  I had some friends tell me to go for it, some offered other choices but one stuck out the most.  I’ve only met T a few times but she already gets me- “Keep doing you!! Either way you’ll be successful. Who knows maybe you will start your own chain or franchise..”

I chose “Real Fit Mom” very carefully.  I know it makes it sound like I’m already a fit mom but that wasn’t why I chose it- because I wasn’t…and am still not.  I’ll admit, I’ve seen other moms create franchises from their little beginnings and I thought maybe that could be me.  But I know nothing about that part so I’ve just kept working on myself and continuing with my goal to just inspire one person.  I started doing fitness challenges to hold myself accountable.  I saw other moms struggling to keep their goals and figured, what the hell?  Many were failures- the challenges not the moms.  Although we failed a lot.  But many of the moms have stuck with me and kept asking for another challenge.

Things changed when I began the Healthy and Fit Challenge back in June.  I wanted to focus more on health than just on “losing weight.”  Moms walked away with some great goodies and even though we didn’t meet our goals, we were all still there in the end (they even voted to add 30 more days at the end of the 90 day challenge because they knew they could do more). And they started leading healthier lives.  The Hot For Halloween was kind of a dud and a lot of that was me.  I had some personal issues going on and slacked off on motivating the moms.  But they slacked off, too.  I left it up to them if they wanted another challenge and they wanted to start right then!  #nevergiveup #noexcuses

I just realized I got off track about talking about me…which is rare.  Haha!  Soooo, after a lot of thought since last night, and some motivational words from a new friend and more from my motivational half-brother, I’ve decided to just keep being me.  It’s working, for the most part, so far.  I have some big plans for my fitness moms and the challenges for the future.  If RFM becomes a household name- fabulous.  But if it’s just in a few homes in the Tampa Bay area, I’m perfectly fine with that.

You are your first priority.  #doyoubeyou

*Totally unrelated and a waste of time for you to read, but Relentless was the name of first alliance I was in while playing the time-wasting game, Kingdoms of Camelot on Facebook (I gained some forever friends on there, though).  Before we went to war we’d go in the game chat box and yell, “RELENTLESS!!!”  It seemed like a good title for a fitness challenge.  😉