I am not you. You are not him.

In the fitness world, we are like snowflakes.  No two people trying to lose weight, build muscle, eat healthy are exactly alike.  We have different bodies, different goals, different loves (and hatred) for various forms of exercise and eating.

I love taking walks. I love fun 5k runs (except I walk them).  I’m learning to love lifting.  I love dance fitness DVDs, some of the P90x videos and I now tolerate Brazil Butt Lift about twice a year….for a few days.

I have friends who absolutely do NOT want to weight lift.  For some, they fall under the “I don’t want to look like Arnold” misconception but for many, they just don’t wanna.  I have friends who have to go to the gym and they LOVE to go to the gym.  Some of them can run on the treadmill for an hour.  Some love the different classes.  Some love the weights.


I have friends who hate any form of cardio.  Some of them love to lift weights, some just don’t exercise at all- in any form.

We are all different and I respect each of my friends, their goals, likes, dislikes and opinions.  I even respect the ones who choose to lead unhealthy lifestyles.  They know how I feel.  If they want to jump on the bandwagon, I’ll pull them along myself.

Our fitness movement is growing every day.  Let’s not allow social media to start a war within ourselves- “they” love to do that.  Look what they’ve done to moms and politics.  Let’s band together, learn to love each other, learn from each other, support each other no matter how we choose to get fit and healthy.

Don’t break down others because they don’t share your opinion.  Share your love, share your passion, share your tips and share your advice.  You might just change someone’s perception.


Here we go again! Brazil Butt Lift…


The other day I was scrolling through all of my blog posts looking for something.  I realized how many times I’ve started over.  How many times I’ve begun new programs.  And how many times I haven’t finished any of them.  Two days ago I signed up to do the Brazil Butt Life Challenge on Beachbody.  I printed out the workouts, added dates, put reminders in my phone and told my kids and Hubby that I need their support.

I got up this morning, put on my favorite workout pants, best sports bra and my blingy Powerhouse Gym tank top, took my vitamins, drank my shake, checked on my Relentless Challenge mommies and now the shits about to get real.


It’s almost 11:00 and my 1st workout was supposed to be done at 9:15.  Where am I?  Still on the computer!  What?  I needed to post the daily post for Relentless!  And I wanted to write this blog post!  Okay, okay.  I’ll get up.  The longest I’ve stayed with BBL has been 2 weeks and even then I missed workouts.  So here we go…again…again….again……..again………..again.  I hate this program so much and am using that hate to finish it once and for all!!!  And I have to use it through Beachbody On Demand because I can’t find the damn DVDs anywhere.  I will defeat you, Leandro!

Do You, Be You

My youngest daughter and I came up with “do you, be you” one day before she went on stage to dance.  She uses the hashtag often on her Instagram pictures.  I’m raising her to dance for herself and to not compare herself to other dancers.


I shared the phrase with my fitness moms, too.  We just started a new fitness challenge on Tampa Bay Moms Group called Relentless*.  These women fit the word to a “T”.  They are determined, motivated, passionate and goal-oriented.  They support each other and don’t care about the prizes they can win (although they do get excited when I dangle some goodies in front of them).  Each of them has a different body type and different goals.  One will have a great day and another will have a crummy one.  But so far they come back each morning rearing and ready to go!  They are there for them, to make themselves healthier.

The phrase  is mine as well.  Last night I posted on Facebook that I was thinking about becoming a Beachbody Coach.  I have three of their programs and love them even though I’ve yet to complete any of them.  With this newest challenge, I’m hoping to finally complete Brazil Butt Lift and P90x3 (P90x will be for the next challenge).  I had some friends tell me to go for it, some offered other choices but one stuck out the most.  I’ve only met T a few times but she already gets me- “Keep doing you!! Either way you’ll be successful. Who knows maybe you will start your own chain or franchise..”

I chose “Real Fit Mom” very carefully.  I know it makes it sound like I’m already a fit mom but that wasn’t why I chose it- because I wasn’t…and am still not.  I’ll admit, I’ve seen other moms create franchises from their little beginnings and I thought maybe that could be me.  But I know nothing about that part so I’ve just kept working on myself and continuing with my goal to just inspire one person.  I started doing fitness challenges to hold myself accountable.  I saw other moms struggling to keep their goals and figured, what the hell?  Many were failures- the challenges not the moms.  Although we failed a lot.  But many of the moms have stuck with me and kept asking for another challenge.

Things changed when I began the Healthy and Fit Challenge back in June.  I wanted to focus more on health than just on “losing weight.”  Moms walked away with some great goodies and even though we didn’t meet our goals, we were all still there in the end (they even voted to add 30 more days at the end of the 90 day challenge because they knew they could do more). And they started leading healthier lives.  The Hot For Halloween was kind of a dud and a lot of that was me.  I had some personal issues going on and slacked off on motivating the moms.  But they slacked off, too.  I left it up to them if they wanted another challenge and they wanted to start right then!  #nevergiveup #noexcuses

I just realized I got off track about talking about me…which is rare.  Haha!  Soooo, after a lot of thought since last night, and some motivational words from a new friend and more from my motivational half-brother, I’ve decided to just keep being me.  It’s working, for the most part, so far.  I have some big plans for my fitness moms and the challenges for the future.  If RFM becomes a household name- fabulous.  But if it’s just in a few homes in the Tampa Bay area, I’m perfectly fine with that.

You are your first priority.  #doyoubeyou

*Totally unrelated and a waste of time for you to read, but Relentless was the name of first alliance I was in while playing the time-wasting game, Kingdoms of Camelot on Facebook (I gained some forever friends on there, though).  Before we went to war we’d go in the game chat box and yell, “RELENTLESS!!!”  It seemed like a good title for a fitness challenge.  😉

New year, new me

I somehow lost Sculpt so put in Rio Extreme the other day.  I made it halfway through!  I’d recently hurt my back so I didn’t think I would be able to do the whole thing.  I’d never gotten through much of Rio Extreme before so making it halfway was a pretty good accomplishment!

Yesterday, I had a brain fart and totally forgot about my new goal to complete BBL.  I guess I was more excited about Pure Romance’s new product launch than I thought!  While watching by Ustream last night, Chris (CEO) told us to write down our personal and business goals.  When I woke up this morning a fellow PR consultant asked why we’d joined Pure Romance.  These two people inspired me to finally sit down and write out what I expected of myself for 2013.

This is what I posted in response to the consultant’s question:

I started PR to pay for my daughter’s dance classes. My ‘Why’ has blossomed into so much more. I love helping and meeting other women, love the products, love my new financial independence, being able to help pay our bills, filling my gas guzzler up ALL the way…..and so much more. PR has completely changed my life. It’s even made me get back to exercising again because the weight I’ve gained puts extra pressure on my back making it hard to get through parties.

At my last party, one of my very good friends pointed out that the sweater I was wearing made my boobs look good……then pointed out that it also accentuated my protruding gut.  The party got off to a slow start because we were waiting for a few more guests and I had to sit down for a while.  My back was starting to hurt and it had nothing to do with the heels I was wearing.  My twenty plus weight gain is affecting all areas of my life including my business  and I’ve been using my business as an excuse to not exercise.  The two clashed together that night and this morning as I was typing my response I realized I had yet another reason to finally get fit.

My fitness goals are: I want to feel sexy again for my husband.  I want my size 5 jeans to actually fit without Mount Saint Muffin sitting on top of them.  I want my blouses to fit again as well as my new bras (my boobs do not need any more fat!).  I want to feel good on the inside and out.  I want to be able to get dressed for a party and not worry about having to suck in my gut or having my back hurt.  I want to show my kids it’s important to exercise and eat healthy.  I want to finally finish Brazil Butt Lift!!!

My personal goals are: I want to spend more time with my kids, especially my fifteen year old who will be leaving (maybe) in two years for college.  I want to work with my son on his baseball more as well as help my daughter with her dance.  I want to spend more time on housework- not because I enjoy it but because I want my house to be more in order which will not only help me achieve my other goals but will help my children to be more organized as well.  I want to spend more time with my parents, too.  They won’t be around forever and I don’t want to have any regrets.

My business goals are: I want to stop treating Pure Romance like a hobby and make it the business it needs to be.  I want to book more parties each month (I’ve already gone from 1-2 to 4-5) and recruit more girls (got one last night!).  I want to learn how to manage my money- it comes in and goes right back out!  I want to increase my inventory and be more organized.  Of course I want to make more money and be able to fill up The Bus at least once a month- ALL the way!  As for Tampa Bay Moms Group, I want to help it continue to grow by finding more sponsors and better content.

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I know this is a long list for just one busy mom of four and I may not get to all of them, but I’m writing them down and posting them on my wall so I will see them every day.

What goals have you made for yourself this year?

I did NOT fail!

*WARNING*  I hate proof reading because I see how much my ADD comes through in my writing.  Strap on your seat belts cuz it’s gonna be one hellavan ADD ride!!!!!…………

You can probably guess by my lack of blogging that I didn’t finish Brazil Butt Lift.  I was being very hard on myself and very disappointed in myself until my trainer, Tiffani, and my friend, Karey, gave me a swift kick in the ass.

Tiffani reminded me that I’d finally completed all of the workouts for Week 1 and did the first day of Week 2.  That’s the best I’ve done in the three years I’ve had BBL.  Still whining, I told her I really didn’t want to have to start over and she told me I didn’t have to- just pick up where I left off.  So, today, I’m starting Day 1 of Week 2 (again).  I would like to finish it this month but for now my goal is to finish Week 2.  As I type this I’m not eating an Eggo waffle or Cinnamon Toast Crunch, I’m drinking a smoothie (which, by the way, you can add too much ice) with almond milk, ice and frozen strawberries.  After I finish this I’ll be popping in Sculpt which is always a big hurdle for me.


Karey spent some time showing me what I’d accomplished with Pure Romance (she’s my sponsor) and showed me how to look at my life with a new perspective.  Instead of focusing on what I didn’t do, she encouraged me to focus on what I did do and make new goals for what I want to do.  I kept hearing other consultants say how dead December was and not to expect much.  I already had five parties booked!  I ended the month with over $2,000 in retail- my highest month yet.  Karey asked each of her team members to do at least $400 for the month.  I did five times what she asked and did twice as much as she did.  Hell, yeah, I’m patting myself on my back!!  (I kicked everyone’s ass in sales, Whoop! Whoop!)

“You keep saying ‘I am trying,’ but yet you do not see the success you have already had.”  This is what Karey said to me to get me to change my perspective on my life and when she reminded me of the monetary goal she’d set for us.

“So here is what I want you to do for Christmas….I want you to be proud of every single thing you have done for your kids this year.”  These were Karey’s parting words for me which I now have on a stickie on my wall.


All it takes is one little sentence, the right sentence, to get motivated to change your life.  No, I didn’t complete BBL like I wanted to.  But, I finally completed an entire week and I’m not giving up.

I have a friend who has been through some really shitty times in his life.  Many people in his situation would have given up by now and just quit life.  But he keeps going.  I’ve seen us both say we’re going to make positive changes in our lives and we will for a while but then we both slip back into our old ways.  Thanks to Karey and Tiffani I’m hoping that I don’t slide back but if I do, I’ll look back on what I HAVE accomplished and use that as motivation to get back up and going again.  And I’ll help my friend do that as well.  <smack on the forehead> I just realized that I did for him what Karey did for me at Thanksgiving!  I reminded him where he was a year ago and showed him how far he’d come.  It’s amazing how you can dish out advice but can’t seem to make yourself follow what you’re dishing out.  🙂

I have a lot of changes to make regarding my fitness goals but I’m making small changes.  No, I’m not an alcoholic but I was having a cocktail every night while reading and soaking in the tub.  Hubby has strict instructions NOT to make me a drink during the week.  That will cut out a lot of unnecessary calories!  This is a really hard time of year for me and there have been times I’ve wanted to drink my way through it to numb the pain.  But I know that when I wake up the next morning with a killer headache the pain is still there.  I choose to face it head on and not let it get me down.   Exercising releases endorphins and I choose happy endorphins over headaches and vomiting, hands down.

Alright, enough babbling.  Smoothie is almost gone so it’s time to get my sculpt on!

It’s a New Year.  Make some positive changes but take time to reflect on your accomplishments no matter how small they may have been.  2013 is going to be the year Fit Bitch finally conquers Slacker Fattie!

Day 4

Yeah, that’s right. I’m on Day 4 of Brazil Butt Lift!! Technically today is rest day but since I had a severe sinus headache yesterday, nausea and all, I couldn’t work out. So today I’m making up Cardio Axe and Bum Bum. Fit Bitch is stomping on Slacker Fattie one day at a time!


Tiffani The Challenger told us this week we had to cut out all junk food. No ice cream, chips, soda, etc. We are also allowed TWO cheat days this week as well. I used my first one on the first day. LOL. Hubby was gone so the kids and I got pizza. I wasn’t really going to count it as a cheat day since we walked 1.5 miles to eat, walked a mile towards home, realized we left the keys on the table so walked a mile back, then 1.5 miles to get home but Tiffani said that didn’t cut it.

She’s such a slave driver.

Which I’m grateful for.

This is what I’ve needed all this time. I’m not sure how many of us are in the contest but we’re off to a great start! Many of us have even posted our dreaded before bikini pictures. We’re all gonna be smokin’ by New Years!! It’s encouraging and motivating to see everyone post their workouts and struggles.

As long as I can stay healthy the exercise part shouldn’t be too hard for me. Starting today I’m going to try harder to get my scheduled workouts finished be fore the kids get home so I’m not squeezing them in at eight o’clock at night (did that on Tuesday- ugh).

I still have one cheat day left but am going to try not to use it. I’m swearing off fast food burgers, fries and soda until this and my other fitness challenge are over. I’m still trying to whip my mommies into shape!! Eating is what’s going to be a challenge for me but I’m going to do my best. 🙂

My alarm just went off to get up and workout!

What was the hardest adjustment for you when you decided to get fit?