Bullying comes in all forms and it only seems to be getting worse. Deciding to get yourself fit and healthy is a personal decision, one that is made by you, for you. You’re excited. You’re especially excited when you start noticing positive changes. So, you share your happiness on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. For others who know what you’re going through or have been in your shoes, you’ll see comments like, “That’s awesome!” “Keep up the great work!” “Way to go!” I love seeing these. These are your “people.”
You don’t expect to be bullied by haters. They are probably too lazy to get up off of their fat asses, or they may have self esteem issues and just want to bash others to make themselves feel better. You, know, the ones who say, “You don’t need to lose weight” or “Why do you have to post every time you workout?” or “Oh, look, Katie is at the gym again, shocking.”
I’ve seen friends APOLOGIZE for posting about a 5k success, or going to the gym, or losing 5 pounds or skipping McDonald’s and eating a healthy, homemade snack. It’s YOUR social media page! It’s YOUR life! If someone makes a nasty comment on a post or sends you a private message because they are too chicken shit to call you out in front of those who support you, delete the bitches. Block them, message back for them to unfollow you, or click the option to hide them when you post about getting fit and healthy. Whatever you do, don’t let them bring you down. And never, ever, EVER apologize for posting your fit and healthy successes no matter how big or how small they may be. Ever.
I ignored the haters!!!
If YOU are one of these assholes, STOP. Who are you to tell someone if they need to lose weight or not? Are you their doctor? Nope. Why do you think it’s your business to say something negative because she ran her first 5k or beat her previous time by 30 seconds? It’s not. Yes, she posted it out there for all to see. But, she posted it because she wanted to share something positive. I can almost guarantee no one posts something so others will leave nasty comments. Would you tell her to her face that you don’t give a flying flip that she just squatted 100 lbs? Would you tell her to her face that you’re tired of seeing her post her before and after pictures? Yes? Good for you. If not, don’t say it while you’re hiding behind a computer screen shoving Twinkies in your mouth. If you don’t want to see other people’s successes, unfollow, unfriend or just keep scrolling. Unless you were born under a rock, you have to have heard the saying, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothin’ at all.” -Bambi movie
This is why I run my TBMG Real Fit Mom fitness challenges in a closed group. So women have a place to feel comfortable to post whatever they want and know that they won’t be put down or ridiculed. If they want to share on my RFM Facebook business page, I encourage that. Even better, if they share on their own page. But not everyone is comfortable doing that. Those that do, often get crapped on.
If you have a weight problem and glare at the screen when you see your friend post when she reached a goal, reach out to her privately. Or join one of the hundreds of weight loss Facebook groups. Many of them have thousands of women in them so the chances of you knowing someone in there is slim. Start by making small changes in your life, starting with not being a bully when someone else is trying to get fit and healthy. Focus on you, not how others are doing. Everyone is different. We all have different goals, challenges, reasons, stories, set backs, successes and desires. Find yours. Just make sure it’s a positive one and one for you.