I posted a story on our local mommy website, Tampa Bay Moms Group, about a woman who shared her before and after pictures. These aren’t your typical before and after shots, though. Click here to read Taryn Brumfitt’s story. Here is the picture that quickly reached 3 million hits-
Her message to women is to love your body.
This is an inspiring story and message.
But it’s not the message for me. If she is comfortable with her current body, kudos to her and all women who are fluffy, pudgy, squishy and all the other words women used to describe their imperfect bodies in her video.
I don’t love my body. I don’t love it and it has nothing to do with society, social media, underweight models and air brushed pictures in magazines. I don’t love my body because I’m thirty pounds overweight. I’m uncomfortable. My clothes don’t fit. I hate having pictures taken of me.
I don’t love my body because I don’t feel healthy.
I was at a neurology appointment for my neck a couple of months ago and of course the first thing they do is have you get on the scale. She had to back it up, add on the 50 and start over.
One hundred and fifty-two pounds.
ONE HUNDRED AND FIFTY-TWO FREAKING POUNDS!!!!
That’s pretty much what I texted my best friend. I was in tears. Aside from when I was pregnant I’ve never weighed over 150, and even then I wasn’t much over. When the doctor came in she asked what was wrong and I told her. She said that it was okay, I had an excuse since I couldn’t work out while my neck was healing. That didn’t make me feel any better. It made me angry. When Kristi messaged me back she told me I needed to stop trying to lose weight so I would look better and focus on losing weight to be healthy. The more I gained the more damage I was doing to myself. On my 5’4″ small frame, 152 is not a healthy weight for me. Am I obese? No. According to WebMD my BMI is 26.1 which is a tad over ‘overweight.’
Just to be sure, I tried several different websites and they all came back with the same answer- Your bmi is 26.1. You are considered overweight.
I’m fat…for me.
I’ve said this over and over again. This isn’t me. This extra weight isn’t a part of who I am. I think that’s why I created Slacker Fattie and Skinny Bitch who was later renamed Fit Bitch. I needed a way to express who I am at the moment and who I want to become. If you go back through my posts over the last four years you’ll see my struggle to get fit and healthy. You’ll see big gaps in between posts from when I fall off the wagon and stop working out for a while- or when I’m a dork and twist my knee, fall in the bathroom, or on the road (still need to post that story). 🙂 I chose the title “Real Fit Mom” not because I’m a really fit mom but because I wanted to be real, be fit and I’m a mom.
I don’t tell my kids I want to lose weight because I want to look like a cover model, I tell them I want to be fit and healthy. I encourage them to workout with me so they can get stronger and be healthy, not so they won’t get fat. I’ve cut down on fast food for them letting them know it’s bad for you and the food mommy cooks is healthier. I can be a good role model for them and not be overweight. I’ve given birth to five children but I don’t have to look like I have to be a good role model for my kids.
It’s my body. I don’t have to like it if I don’t want to. YOU CAN’T MAKE ME!!!!